Working with Parents/Carers

Working with parents/carers:

Many parents/carers will want to talk to their children about their relationships and to keep them safe from abuse and violence. You can provide workshops, leaflets and information sessions to support parents/carers in their important role.

Parents/carers need support and learning opportunities to understanding Violence Against Women and Girls, safeguarding and how this protects their children and the welfare of families.  Experiencing any form of Violence Against women and Girls (VAWG) has profound emotional and psychological impacts on children, who may be physically, emotional and psychologically harmed. Professionals have a duty to protect children and families.  Explaining this to families on the first point of contact can give parents an understanding of when how and why professionals have to and need to share information.

It is crucial that professionals check that the information they have given to families has been clear, understood and clarified to avoid any confusion or miscommunication in the future.  Families are more likely to work in partnership with agencies and make informed decisions if they have this information.

Working with mums and dads:

It is important that when thinking about educating parents/carers that this includes dads as well as mums. Men have a vital role to play in ending Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG) and we need to remember their role in the way that education programmes are developed and delivered. Too often women are much more engaged in the education of their children than men. It is a challenge to every educator to ensure that men are equally engaged in their children’s education and learn about what they can do to stop VAWG.

Parents/carers can talk to their children about Violence Against Women and Girls:

Parents/carers can be a useful source of information on Violence Against Women and Girls for children and young people.

As well as listening to their children’s experiences parents/carers can actively talk about forms of Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG), gender inequality, and respectful relationships.

Top Tips for parents/carers talking about Violence Against Women and Girls:

  1. CHALLENGE SEXISM: Parents/carers can challenge children’s stereotypes, roles and expectations of gender, sexuality and any myths about Violence Against Women and Girls.
  2. LAW: Inform children about the law, for example if a child (under 18) is found to send, upload or forward  or receive images of a naked child on their phone (a sext) they could be arrested for distributing child pornography and be placed on the sex offenders register.
  3. CAMPAIGN: Talk about local, national and international campaigns to stop Violence Against Women and Girls. Parents/carers  could work with their children to campaign together and celebrate any active work that their children do to end VAWG.
  4. ROLE MODEL: Remember that parents/carers and other family members have an important role in forming the attitudes, behaviours and actions of children and young people. Parents/carers can role model non-violent behaviour.
  5. SAFETY PLAN: Discuss safety plans with children for example memorise three phone numbers in case they get into danger, text someone where they are going
  6. SELF ESTEEM: Tell children their strengths, discuss their aspirations and build their self-esteem. Help them to develop their own emotional intelligence and manage their anger.
  7. WEB AWARE: Talk to children about the internet and educate them on how to safely use it. If it is possible parents/carers can limit the time they spend on the internet and monitor sites they are going on, but there is now wide access to the internet. Report any on-line abuse to CEOP or the police.

This section:

This section focuses on how education organisations can work with parents/carers to create learning opportunities for them to increase their understanding of Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG), develop their skills to support their children and take action to stop VAWG.

There is more information on delivering parents workshops.

Or lots more information on parents participating, including informed, listening and talking parents/carers.